“He expected sex; it was never just helping me. The more help I needed, the more I had to beg for it. The more bedbound I got, the worse it got. I had to give up my body to get basic, essential things done because that was the only thing I had to trade,” says Maisie*, a 39-year-old from Northamptonshire who became disabled following childhood cancer.
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Can your clitoris shrink?
If you aren’t feeling sexual arousal like you used to, it might not be low libido, but it could be clitoral atrophy.
Clitoral atrophy is a pleasure-stealing—and vastly under-researched—condition looming over people with vaginas.
A guide for parents on disabled sex ed
As a result of either poorly adapted education or ill-informed parents and teachers, disabled people are often sidelined or excluded entirely when it comes to sex education.
Perhaps assumed to be nonexistent, the community’s sexuality is taboo, and representation is typically limited to appearing in pornography as an objectifying fetish. A lack of inclusive sex education leaves disabled people vulnerable to exploitation as they grow into adults without information on sexual health, consent and pleasure.
Is your vagina too thight ?
Your pelvic floor matters, but it’s easy for certain conditions to go unresolved, and the idea of a too-tight vagina doesn’t often enter the conversation.
However, hypertonic pelvic floor dysfunction is more common than you’d think.
Are you an emotional dumper?
Most everyone vents their feelings. It’s part of being human. We verbalize emotions so we can better process them.
At least, that’s what we tell ourselves.
There’s a line, however, between letting off steam and callously dumping raw emotions on your loved ones. Unfortunately, the line is not always recognizable.